While this may seem like the typical teenage life, it’s not the kind I want my kids to have. I want kids who actually like their parents. I want a strong parent child connection.
It seems I’m not alone. In Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers, authors Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Maté say that kids need to value parental input over their peers. What does a healthy parent child connection look like?
Your child doesn’t place so much emphasis on peer approval.
Peer rejection and approval is normal, but your child shouldn’t place so much emphasis on whether her friends like her or not. Your child’s friends don’t have her best interest in mind the same way you do. Any influence they may have on your kids isn’t as well-thought out as yours.
You respect one another.
Imagine having a lifelong, close relationship with your kids, long into their adulthood. This can only come when both of you love and respect one another. Many adults still harbor resentment towards their parents, or would rather not be with them. Read more →