For many parents, difficult times are hard to overcome, and challenges never seem to end. Here’s how to stay positive when pregnant and times are tough.
I know I’m not alone when I say times sometimes get tough. For you, it might be family issues, financial bills or coping with health issues. And when it rains it pours—bad luck seems to invite even more bad luck. I hardly have bad luck in life, but it seems to have barged right through the door as I near the end of my twin pregnancy. I’m learning how to stay positive despite the complications.
I endured a few discomforts throughout the pregnancy, from being sick five times (once every month since October until now), to double the fatigue and nausea and even struggling to gain enough weight to ensure these babies are a healthy size.
Now, however, I’m faced with more challenging complications.
I mentioned my PUPPPs rash a few days ago. I now also have cholestasis, yet another itch-related pregnancy complication. (Why I have two itch-related complications that have nothing to do with each other is beyond me.) But unlike PUPPPs, cholestasis does pose a risk to the babies. I now have to visit the doctor three times a week to monitor the babies’ health and deliver no later than 37 weeks.
It’s been a whirlwind of madness in our home. I also have a three-year-old to care for and a husband battling bronchitis. I’ve been ready to give up so many times but remind myself that these babies rely on me to stay positive.
How to stay positive when pregnant
As much as I wrote this post to help you, I also wrote it for myself, to remind me stay positive when times are tough:
One of the best ways to ease worries and anxiety is to think about something else, even for a short while. For me, this might mean watching a funny show or playing games on my iPhone. (Yes that’s me playing Scramble with Friends and Draw Something at 3am.) I’ll hang out with my three-year-old and talk to my husband and mom about other topics.
Have a good cry or vent.
At the same time, sometimes you just need to get it out of your system. While you don’t want to stay miserable too long, it’s also not healthy to bottle up your feelings. I find solace in online mommy groups dealing with similar complications so that I know I’m not alone. I also email my friends the latest updates for support.
Search for the positives.
Somehow there remains a glimmer of joy and goodness even in our troubles. Draw on these positives to remind yourself that not everything is bleak.
In my case, I’m fortunate that the babies remain healthy. I’m in competent hands with my doctors. My son still loves to kiss my belly. And heck, that I even have a disabled parking placard so that I don’t have to walk too far.
Tell yourself it’s temporary.
In most cases, dire days are temporary. I know this pregnancy is coming to a close. While the ensuing newborn days will be crazy, I know I won’t have these complications for much longer.
It’s all for good reason.
I’ve always felt that our experiences in life help mold us into the people we can be. Bad relationships can teach us about what we want in a partner. Poor decisions help us grow into more mature adults down the line.
Any annoying medical tests I’ve dealt with have ensured my health and those of the babies. And you’re reminded that the sacrifices are worth the trouble when you hold two baby boys in your arms.
Last night I cried from the discomforts of carrying twins and having these complications. It ain’t easy, and I was just about to be the biggest cry baby and mope for the next few weeks.
But then you wake up the next day and realize that there’s still goodness. That this will be short-lived, and that I have an amazing family. And two little ones on the way—worth holding on for.
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- On Choosing to Turn a Bad Parenting Day into a Good One
How do you plow through difficult times? What have been some of your more challenging moments? What are your tips on staying positive? Let me know in the comments below!
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