Scared to go down a slide. Obsessed with pushing every sprinkler down along the sidewalk. Stammering. Screaming in the car seat if the car so much as stopped at a light. Most of your child’s quirks won’t last forever (even though it feels like they will).
Instead of wishing time to speed up, remind yourself that these quirks are part of a time in your life that can’t be regained. Even less-than-pleasant stages like the first few months of sleep deprivation will eventually seem nostalgic (my husband and I can now reminisce about our three-times-a-night wake ups with a chuckle).
Treasure the state they’re in
With my oldest son, I wanted time to speed up because I only semi-believed people when they said it would get better. It was as if I needed proof; I just needed to get to that “better” point to feel convinced. With my twins however, I’m calmer, taking the bad in strides as much as I can. I don’t mind as much if they need to be carried all day for comfort, knowing that I only have a few months’ worth of time before they get heavier and not so tiny.
If you have a smart phone handy, take videos to capture your kids in motion. I don’t suggest thrusting a camera in front of their faces every minute, but do try to balance photos with videos as well. I regret that I don’t have too many videos of my oldest son when he was still an infant because I almost forget what it was like to hold him. I’m scared the same will happen with the babies, so I try to take videos a few times a month so I can see their arms waving and hear their gurgles and giggles.
You’ll miss when they outgrow interests
“He isn’t really interested in taking walks around the block with me anymore,” my husband said. It was like the end of an era, now that my son has found new interests in lieu of old ones like walking around the block, playing with magnets or other activities that had at one point occupied most of his time. It’s a given that kids won’t always play with their once beloved toys or feel excited about activities they’ve outgrown, yet it’s no less painful to say goodbye to those old standbys.
So far my kiddo still sleeps with his lovey every night. You know I’ll be in tears when he wants his special toy no longer.
I would often tell people that I know my boy has grown up when I grimace and have no desire to kiss his stinky feet. He has officially become a kid and no longer the chubby cute baby with the pudgy feet not too long ago. And even though the days have been long, I can’t believe just how quickly time has taken my little baby away and replaced him with a bona fide kid. The lesson I learned? Kiss my babies’ pudgy feet, because before I know it, they’ll be stinky all too quickly.
What do you miss about your kids’ “younger days”?