We all have bad parenting habits we know we should break. See if you can relate to these bad parenting habits that need to be avoided.
I’ve said this so many times to myself. I know what I “should” be doing as a parent but I keep repeating the same habits I mean to break.
My bad parenting habits
For you, maybe it’s those zillion times you relent and allow your kids that extra piece of candy. Or when you hop on the computer or phone when you should be playing with your kids.
Below are my bad parenting habits I need to break.
“Oh, wow…” “Uh-huh…” and “That’s so cool…” are some of the should-be-said-more-enigmatically phrases I tell my son. Except I’m not paying attention to what he’s telling or showing me.
I probably had a good excuse: I was cooking, tending to his brothers, cleaning. Or his topic of conversation makes little sense to me (“The ocean water is this thick,” he might say. Huh?). And why does he keep interrupting a zillion times an hour?
Even though I scold my mom for reacting too quickly, one could say the fruit doesn’t fall far from the tree. Just today, I reacted when I saw my four-year-old plop down on his baby brother’s legs. An act you swear was akin to setting the house on fire based on my reaction.
Had I kept my mouth shut, my son wouldn’t have been in tears and assumed he had just committed the worst crime on earth.
Making requests instead of statements
I find myself asking requests, like “We’re going to the grocery, okay?” or “Want to take a bath now?” Complete with the rising inflection at the end of the sentence! Really what I meant to say was, “We’re going the grocery,” or “It’s time to take a bath now.”
I suppose I’m saying, “We’re going to the grocery. Do you understand?” But phrasing the necessary as a question invites his opinions when I don’t need them.
Not preparing what I could the night before
Here’s another bad habit I’ve managed to mostly break: leaving tasks to the morning when I could prepare them the night before. As if mornings couldn’t get any cloudier, I now assemble my lunch, pack the pump and pick my clothes. I could have done all these tasks the night before instead of the morning, half-awake. Yes, you’re tired at night after a long day and want to cave in to your procrastination. But you’ll be even more tired (and out of it) the next day.
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Not waking up earlier than the kids
Yes, I consider the privilege of sleeping in a bad habit. Only because I detest when my husband and I are fumbling about in the morning. We’re feeding the twins, shoving a banana in my four-year-old’s hand. All before realizing we still haven’t made breakfast.
Now I know better. And apparently so does my body, as I seem to wake 30 minutes on my own before I rouse the kids from their room. During those 30 minutes, I wake myself up and make breakfast. Usually.
One of the healthiest realizations we parents can have is that we’re not perfect. We won’t ever be, and that’s actually okay. Looking back on your list of bad habits, you may find you still do the things you swore you wouldn’t.
But over time, do our best and hope the good habits outweigh the bad. And if they don’t? Well… a late wake up time or a forgotten lunch never really hurt anyone.
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How about you? What bad parenting habits do you have a difficult time breaking?
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