Practical tips to make bedtime for kids easier. End bedtime battles and improve your evenings. Check out the tips for an easier time tonight!
It seemed at every bedtime I couldn’t avoid the sound of whining or crying. Sometimes both. My nighttime routine wasn’t enough to convince them it’s time for bed. Instead, evenings became epic battles convincing them it’s time for bed.
One time, I even kept walking my son back into his bed for a good hour because he didn’t want to sleep in his new bed. (It gets tough when they learn how to use doorknobs!)
How to make bedtime for kids easier
What should’ve been a relaxing wind down to the day was instead a power struggle to convince them it’s time for bed.
If it seems hopeless for you too, try the following techniques that worked for me:
Have regular sleep and wake up times, even on weekends.
Seven o’clock. That’s the magic hour of the day when all three kids wake up. Doesn’t matter if it’s a Tuesday or a Saturday. Even if they wake up at 6:20, they still need to stay in bed until we open the door.
Bedtime is only slightly different. The twins are in bed by 7:15pm and our six-year-old by 8pm. We make exceptions, but they’re exactly that—rare times to accommodate special occasions.
Otherwise, we have regular sleep and wake up times every day. The times we’ve deviated from have been more chaotic.
Kids thrive on consistency. Long before they can tell time, they adjust to doing the same things at the same times of the day. The best part? A consistent routine leaves little room for arguments. They won’t fight an issue when it isn’t one. It’s pretty hard to argue your way into a later bedtime when you’re always in bed by 8pm.
Action plan: For at least one week, stick to regular sleep and wake up times.
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Get your kids to pitch in.
Not only do kids thrive on consistent routine, they also love helping. Young kids enjoy feeling responsible and doing tasks only you’ve done before.
Include clean up time before your sleep routine. They can fetch their own toothbrushes and rinsing cups. Hand them their clothes to place in the hamper or the pajamas to lay on their beds.
Most of all, make it fun. Getting kids to clean up after themselves is more doable when you frame it as something positive. Pitching in to bedtime tasks makes your kids feel more a part of the routine and likely to sleep.
Action plan: Add one or two tasks your child can do tonight for bedtime.
Transition into bedtime.
Your kids will transition into bedtime—whether that’s conducive or not is up to you. Are they rough housing in a loud, bright room? Do you change plans every evening, making it harder to signal that it’s bedtime?
Maybe that transition needs to be more sleep-friendly. A wild chase around the house may not help your child adjust to sleep. Changing that to quiet play might be better. Adapt the environment as well: play calm music instead of loud and fast. Close the blinds to make the rooms darker.
Action plan: Find calm, quiet ways to transition into bedtime.
Talk about sleep as a good thing.
Hands on hips, forehead furrowed. And you’re bellowing out to your kids, “It’s time for bed!”
Understandable. They’ve been fighting sleep for half an hour now, refusing to do the tasks to get ready for bed.
But do this too often and your kids see bedtime as The Dreaded Thing. Everything else—staying up, playing, reading—seem more fun in comparison.
Instead, talk to your kids about the benefits of sleep. Frame the benefits in ways they can understand, such as growing stronger and not getting sick. And yes, acknowledge the difficulty in saying goodbye to a fun day. But also talk about how relaxing and important good sleep is.
And work together as a team. Ask him what he needs to make bedtime easier. You might learn simple tactics like adding a night light or giving him a few minutes to read before bed.
Action plan: Ask your child what can make bedtime easier. Change how you talk about sleep from a drag to a benefit.
Set a timer.
On any given day, you’ll likely hear the timer in our home blast beep, beep, beep loud enough for everyone to hear. We use timers for obvious reasons like when to drain the pasta from the pot and other cooking needs. But a timer also works wonders with kids, including bedtime.
Let’s say you let your child watch 30 minutes of a movie before bedtime. Except movies are much longer than 30 minutes. It’s difficult to peel your child away from Frozen or Minions when they’re right in the middle of singing “Let It Go.”
Instead, set a timer. Explain you’ll turn the TV off once the timer beeps. If not television, then maybe it’s bath time. I’ll set a timer for my kids’ baths more for myself so I know how long they’ve been sitting in the tub. But those three beeps are also their cue that it’s time to get out of the tub and get dressed.
Action plan: Set a timer for when you’d like to start your bath or bedtime routine.
While it’s important to show empathy and work as a team, remember your role as the parent. This doesn’t mean abusing power, disrespecting your child or bullying him into doing tasks. But it does mean being firm and providing the boundaries he needs.
You’re tempted to placate and soothe your sobbing child, or cave in to his unusual demands. After all, it seems like a quick fix to what would otherwise be an epic meltdown over bedtime.
But be firm in your expectations, and follow through with the consequences of failed action.
One evening, my three-year-old refused to take a bath and end the day. We gave him two options: he can take a bath, or he can go straight to bed with no bath, books, or quiet playing. He still refused to take a bath. Though difficult to see him upset, we sent him straight to bed, like we had said we would.
The next morning, he still looked glum. But he whispered, “Tomorrow, I take bath and sleep.”
Action plan: Explain to your child a natural consequence to not sleeping. Then follow through with the consequences.
A miserable bedtime routine doesn’t make for a happy family. Kids are whining and crying, you’re losing your temper. The techniques you’ve tried aren’t working. All at a time you should spend snuggling and relaxing at the end of the day.
Your nights call for change. Maybe that means finding a better transition to sleep. Establishing sleep and wake up times every day, even weekends. Or being firm with your expectations while involving your child in their bedtime routine.
Your bedtime does not have to be the epic battle that it is today. Soon, you’ll be able to say, “It’s bedtime!” all without a furrow in your brow.
Learn how to end bedtime battles with these articles:
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- 10 Things You Should Do when You Transition from Crib to Toddler Bed
- What to Do when Your Child Plays Instead of Sleeps
- How to Stop Nagging Your Child to Get Stuff Done
Tell me in the comments: What are your current bedtime struggles? How do you make bedtime easier?
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