How to Get Through the 12 Month Old Sleep Regression
Going through the 12 month old sleep regression can be difficult. Learn how to get through this challenging phase as quickly as possible!
Hitting that one-year mark is often a celebration not just for the baby, but for us parents who somehow survived a year of raising a baby. And for the lucky ones, sleep deprivation is a distant memory reserved for the newborn stages. I have a good sleeper, we can finally say at this stage.
But sometimes, the celebration is short-lived when you’re hit with sleep issues you never anticipated.
My 12 month old, who normally got at least 11 hours of sleep, started waking up more frequently at night (with the first one starting barely an hour after bed). He’d wake up at 5am, making him sleepy as the morning wore on. And he’d cry through both his morning and afternoon naps.
The good news was that I knew he’d slept well up to that point and could do so again. A few tweaks were all it took to get him sleeping through the night and taking good naps once again.
Take a look at these simple ways to get through the 12 month sleep regression and return to your normal patterns again:
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1. Schedule the first nap 3 hours after waking up
Whether your 1 year old woke up several times at night or really early in the morning, it’s tempting to push that first nap sooner than usual. After all, you’re both exhausted from the lack of sleep, and she’s likely more than ready for that next nap.
Instead, see what happens if you schedule that morning nap no sooner than three hours after she wakes up in the morning. If she woke up at 6am, put her down at 9am. With consistency, this can hopefully get her back onto her usual sleep schedule and avoid creating a new one based on an early wake up time.
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2. Offer the last feeding earlier in the evening
Does your toddler still rely on nursing or feeding to fall asleep at bedtime? Doing so might be denying her the chance to learn how to fall asleep on her own, instead of needing milk to do so.
One trick is to nurse or feed earlier in the evening. For instance, offer milk directly after dinner (or even with dinner). Or the last feeding can happen at the start of the bedtime routine, like right before the bath.
The one-year mark was when I not only introduced cow’s milk but also transitioned from a bottle to a sippy cup. Gradually, I phased out the nursing sessions and bottles in favor of drinking more independently and, down the line, with meals.
Get more tips on how to introduce cow’s milk to your toddler.
3. Have a (really) early bedtime
When most parents hear the advice to have an early bedtime, they might think of bumping the time by 15-30 minutes at most. But considering that you’re course-correcting your child’s sleep, experiment with drastic changes.
In short, put him down for the night much earlier than you usually do.
If he normally sleeps at 7:30pm, put him down at 6:30pm. The end of the day is the most tiresome for all of us—the early bedtime could be the welcomed rest he truly needs. And good, quality sleep can reap even more of the same.
4. Give your child a lovey
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A sudden separation anxiety at bedtime can strike when toddlers hit new developmental milestones. They might question whether we’ll return in the morning or wonder what lurks behind the darkness.
One of the simplest ways to make sleeping a more pleasant experience is to give your child a lovey, stuffed animal, or special blanket. Each of my kids has one (even until now!) that they sleep with for every nap and through the night. It’s the constant comfort they have, a reassurance that they’re not truly alone.
5. Keep check-ins brief and infrequent
Do you feel like you walk into your child’s room a zillion times a night? Does nap time hardly happen because you check in each time he cries?
We all want to comfort our kids for every fussiness or cry we hear. Unfortunately, if done too often and for every little thing, they think that there is something wrong. That maybe they actually can’t fall asleep on their own, much less alone in the room. That every disruption is cause for concern.
The solution? Don’t check in on him every time.
First, learn to decipher his cries. Is he whining and complaining, or is he genuinely crying and upset? Reserve your check-ins for when he truly needs your help.
Then, keep those check-ins brief—no more than 30 seconds each time. The goal isn’t to calm him down or stay in the room until he falls asleep. You’re making sure that there’s nothing wrong (like a soiled diaper or vomit), and reassuring him that you’re still here.
And finally, start timing your check-ins, going in every 10-15 minutes if he’s still crying. He has more chances to actually fall asleep during longer stretches than if you enter the room each time he cries.
6. Be consistent with your strategy
Going back to your good sleep habits happens with consistent repetition. Flip flopping between, say, having your child stay in his crib and bringing him to your bed sends mixed messages.
Instead, plan ahead and hold your ground. You might even give yourself a “pep talk,” reminding yourself that, while it might be rough, this is your plan of action. This can help you resist the temptation of perhaps bringing him to your bed or sleeping in his room.
The more you follow through with your word and remain consistent, the more he realizes that this is simply the way things are. Give him the benefit of the doubt that he truly can get through this.
Conclusion
Sleep problems improve, but they don’t always go away entirely. Even when things have been humming along just fine, we might still hit a sleep regression at 12 months, leaving us trying to remember what to do.
Thankfully, you have options.
Experiment with the time your child sleeps, from trying an early bedtime to keeping him awake three hours before the first nap. Offer the last feeding earlier in the evening to avoid relying on feeding or nursing to fall asleep. Give him a special lovey to make the time apart from you more comforting.
Check in briefly and at set intervals—doing the opposite might confirm his suspicions that something is worrisome. And stay consistent with your plan so you avoid sending mixed messages.
You can get through the 12 month old sleep regression — and go back to celebrating the other milestones of hitting that one-year mark.
Get more tips:
- Why Your Toddler Is Going Through the 1 Year Old Sleep Regression
- How to Get an Overtired Toddler to Sleep
- What to Do When Your Toddler Suddenly Won’t Sleep
- 1 Year Old Nap Schedule Examples
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