Does it seem like everyone wishes they were a stay-at-home mom if only finances weren’t an issue? But being a working mom isn’t always a second choice. Here’s why.
Would you be a stay-at-home mom if you could? Sometimes it seems like every mom’s goal is to be a stay-at-home mom if only finances didn’t hold her back.
For instance, I was on a parenting forum when a mom vented about being a stay-at-home mom with her baby. Except she prefaced it with, “I know being a stay-at-home is a gift, but…”
But here’s the thing: being a stay-at-home mom isn’t always a gift.
I understand she was counting her blessings for being able to afford to stay home. And she’s not alone. There’s the mom who has made it a goal to live off one income and has always wanted to be with her kids. Or there’s the mom who is miserable at work but must plug on because of finances. I get it. Being able to stay home is often hard to come by for many people.
But I want to change the mentality that being a working mom isn’t just as ideal as being a stay-at-home mom. Or that finances are the only thing keeping moms at work.
Because you have the stay-at-home mom who doesn’t want to be. She’d rather be in the work force but can’t seem to get her resume noticed. You also have the working mom who goes to the office full time even though she could do without the money.
Me—I work because of financial reasons. Raising children on a tight budget has made it even more necessary that both my husband and I work.
But even without the financial need, I’d still continue to work. Maybe it’d be part-time. Or volunteer my services with non-profits. Or blog. But I’d still want to do things without my kids.
Being a stay-at-home mom works for many families. And moms who are with their kids instead of in the work force deserve many kudos. And I get that it’s an option many women want but can’t have.
But it’s not always the preferred choice. For many, having a job is a gift. Making money, building a career—these are benefits many women also want but can’t have.
What works for one family isn’t always ideal for another. We need to re-frame how we address our circumstances. Moms who enjoy working, you’re not alone. Not everyone wants to be a stay-at-home mom and there’s no guilt for feeling that way.
Read more articles:
- The Working Mom Pep Talk: What Do You Tell Yourself to Keep Going?
- The “How Do You Do It” Working Moms Guide
- Why I Don’t Bother with Working Mom Guilt
- 7 Reasons You’re Doing Fine as a Mom
Your turn: Are you happy being a working mom? Let me know in the comments!
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