Helping kids with homework? These are the homework mistakes you should avoid! Learn what to do instead to get the most out of homework time with your child.
Many of us dread homework time and the ensuing frustration it can bring. We wonder if homework is worth the time. Or if kids are using its potential effectively.
5 homework mistakes you should avoid
We all want homework time to be as productive and smooth as possible. See if you can spot these six mistakes parents might be making during homework time.
1. Not letting your child’s teacher see his mistakes
All this time, I would walk my son through each homework question step-by-step. For instance, with math problems, I’d help him count fingers to get to the right answer. And we’d do this for every question so that by the time we’re finished, all the answers were 100% correct.
Now imagine you’re his teacher. You see a math worksheet with all correct answers. No eraser marks, no signs of effort, no pattern of wrong answers. Other than your child’s handwriting, the homework could look like any adult did it.
You could see why his teacher doesn’t have a gauge for how he’s doing. She won’t know whether he understood the homework or struggled to plow through them.
Not to say you should never help your child with homework, but a few new strategies could include:
- Guiding your child through the first few problems, then letting him try the rest on his own.
- Not correcting his mistakes and leaving the answer wrong.
- Writing a note to the teacher about the difficulty level. I’ve written everything from “easy” to “challenging” to “just right.”
Your child’s teacher can then see which skills need improving and from which ones your child can move on.
As found on kidshealth.org:
Make sure kids do their own work. They won’t learn if they don’t think for themselves and make their own mistakes. Parents can make suggestions and help with directions. But it’s a kid’s job to do the learning.
2. Doing homework at the wrong time
The time your child does homework can make the difference between a job well done and one that isn’t. For instance, doing homework in a loud room will distract and prevent her from focusing. If siblings are being loud or the television is on, find a better alternative.
Or maybe your child feels tired or hungry. These conditions make it difficult for her to concentrate. Still yet, maybe your child is in too playful of a mood. Her silliness keeps her from staying focused at the tasks. You’re better off postponing homework until the right time.
Just as your child has a bed for sleep, so should he have a place for homework and studying. Writing is much easier to do sitting at a table rather than sprawled on the floor. And having a consistent station will make him feel proud of his work and know where to go to get it done.
Whether it’s a desk, a little table or a nook (affiliate link), create a space that encourages homework time. And stock your home with homework essentials. We’ve had to improvise a few times because the homework required materials we didn’t have on hand. Now we know to stock up on the basics: pencils, crayons, scissors, glue and erasers.
4. Treating homework as a drag
Homework is nothing more than further practice. A chance to keep learning and refresh what you just learned. And how we phrase homework can make all the difference in our kids’ attitudes about it. For instance, saying “Do your homework now so you can get it out of the way” paints it as a boring task to get through. What if instead you addressed homework as something that’s necessary but also beneficial? Maybe it can even be something you bond over with and work together on.
Consider how much time it takes compared to the other parts of your life. Has your busy schedule made it feel impossible to squeeze it in? Consider reducing your child’s activities.
And if the workload is just too much, then it’s time to address your child’s teacher. A good rule of thumb is 10 minutes of homework per day per grade year. So if she’s in second grade, she should do about 20 minutes of homework and no more. A senior in high school can roughly do two hours’ worth.
5. Getting frustrated at your child
Homework is a love/hate relationship for many parents. On one hand, we know it’s important. But on the other, it’s also the source of so much stress. The troubles don’t seem to end. Maybe your child isn’t taking homework seriously. Or you don’t get how kids do homework these days compared to your school days. Or you think he should know the answers by now.
But watch how you react. Getting frustrated at your child doesn’t solve anything. Homework continues to drag and both of you are spiraling downward. Instead, put things in perspective. Maybe do homework another time when he isn’t so tired. Or take a break and let another adult take over. Losing your patience makes it difficult for him to see homework as rewarding or reap its benefits.
So far, doing homework has been a pleasant experience for me and my child. We treat it as the time we bond together in the evenings. We’ve found a quiet time when his brothers are already asleep and the house is quiet. He has a special table we always do homework on. And I do my best not to get frustrated (though can’t say I have a perfect record!).
Homework isn’t the dreaded parent-child battle but the time we enjoy each other’s company. Even while reviewing addition.
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What are your biggest homework challenges? What are some of your general homework mistakes?