Your twins are now toddlers and running around everywhere! Taking them out all by yourself seems scary. Check out these simple strategies to take toddler twins out alone and survive!
My twins were riding their scooters, and we needed to cross the street. I had them walk their scooters while crossing, and one of them cried the entire way because I didn’t let him ride. He falls to the ground (keep in mind, we’re crossing a busy street) and I pick him up as quickly as possible.
He’s still crying and I hear him say, “My shoe! My shoe!” Apparently his shoe fell off in this crazy commotion. So I run back to the middle of the street to fetch his shoe. Meanwhile, my other twin, scared and confused, bolts to the other side of the street on his own.
In typical mom fail fashion, I’m carrying a shoe, two scooters and a crying child while my other one runs across the street. All in front of a bunch of people watching the scene unfold.
Simple strategies to take toddler twins out alone
So yeah… it can get a little crazy. I learned a lot about how to manage twins alone… and survive.
Pick the right places
The struggle usually starts with the location. If you’re not careful, you’re scrambling after them in a busy, crowded mall or at a park right next to the street. Stick to places like the ones below:
- Confined parks: Toddler-friendly parks fenced in to prevent them from running off.
- Wide, grassy areas: Parks with a wide expanse of grass for your twins to run and run.
- Small playgrounds: Toddler-appropriate playgrounds without the big kids.
- Museums with a toddler area: Tot areas are confined and include age-appropriate activities.
- Fenced-in tennis courts: Perfect for toddlers and preschoolers. They can run around within the confines of the court.
- Indoor playgrounds: Although you pay a fee, indoor playgrounds are a safe bet to take toddler twins out alone. Many include age-appropriate activities and equipment.
Visit the location with another adult first before going alone with the twins. You’ll get a feel for the place with another adult just in case. Then you’ll at least be more familiar–with directions, parking, and how to get in and out.
And the best time to go? Right when they open. Your twins are already awake super early. Take advantage of their early wake up and be the first to arrive. You’ll have the place to yourself, and your kids can run around without too many people.
Have play dates
Feeling outnumbered? Plan play dates so you have extra sets of eyes on your twins. Moms are more than willing to keep an eye on one twin if you need to chase the other.
If friends aren’t available, mommy groups make a good option (find a few on meetup.com). You might even make lifelong friends and stay in touch.
Reinforce safety lessons
You’ve picked the right places and added reinforcements. Now it’s time to establish and reinforce safety lessons. At each outing, remind your twins about important safety issues that are not negotiable. Like staying close to you, walking in parking lots, or holding hands crossing the street (ahem).
Explain why they need to listen and do as you say. Speak to their level and let them know that cars might not see them if they dash across the street. Or that they need to stay close by so they don’t get lost. Explaining the reason shows you’re not saying it just to be mean but because for a good reason.
And remind them of the privilege of not being in a stroller. The freedom to walk around not strapped in a stroller means they have to listen to what you say. Better yet, give a run down of the rules on your way to the place and before you arrive.
I know how terrifying it can be to take toddler twins out alone. They’re mobile and can run in opposite directions. They throw tantrums and aren’t as easily soothed as when they were infants. And there’s two of them and one of you.
But the best way to overcome fear is to face it head on. Any time you feel apprehensive is a sign for you to do it.
You don’t have to take a trip to the zoo or a long drive at first. Start small. Stick to familiar routes or even a simple walk around the block.
But go. You’ll feel accomplished for having gone out with your twins, no matter how exhausting. Plan ahead, do what it takes to make it easier, explain the rules. Then venture out beyond your doorstep and have fun with your toddler twins—even without the double stroller.
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Tell me in the comments: What are your best tips to take toddler twins out alone (or your regular kids!)?