We hear a ton of advice on how to raise kids. But want to know the only parenting advice you should listen to, the one you should always follow? Find out in this article.
Parenting advice. Whether it’s from friends and family or online and in books, we hear plenty of it.
And with a blog about parenting, it might seem ironic to hear my number one parenting advice. The one that everyone needs to follow, no matter the age of their child. And one you can always rely on:
The only parenting advice you should listen to
Do what works for you.
It’s so easy to share our successes and tips with our mom friends. This is, after all, one of the best ways to learn new techniques and is a huge benefit of “having a village” to rely on.
But at the end of the day, each of us knows our kids best. In ways more profound than anyone ever will.
The same goes for being on the receiving end of the advice. We can listen to the advice and apply bits or all of it. But we should do so based on what works for us, our kids and our families.
Now more than ever in decades past, parenting seems to feel categorized. We even get in debates about breastfeeding, vaccinations, or whether kids can play unsupervised.
I can pinpoint many of my friends and describe ways they’re similar or different to how I raise my kids.
And the nice thing is, that’s okay.
Each child, parent and family has their own nuances. There will never be one blanket approach that works for everyone. Heck, I’ve even had a change of heart on many of the things I had at one point believed so strongly about. (Read about my change of heart here.)
We evolve. We learn more as we raise our kids. And through time we let a few things go and cling on to new ideas. We change as our kids change.
I’m certain and even hopeful you may not agree with everything I’ve written in this series or blog. And that’s not only inevitable, but a positive part about belonging to a community of parents.
We can take information, give it a try, and decide it works for us or not. But the minute we feel stressed or wonder if we’re doing it wrong, it’s best to stop and listen to your own needs. To do what works for you and your family.
This isn’t a cop out to disregard advice or a call to ignore information. After all, it would be a lonely journey without the insights of other parents. And we learn best through gathering information and comparing notes.
But what may work for others may not always work for our needs.
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Being a better parent
You’ve been reading along this series or found this blog or article because you wanted to be a better parent. I hope the tips you’ve learned in this series have given you new insight and applicable techniques to try.
But you know your family best, as I do mine. And it’s easy to lose sight of that when we hear advice that don’t always line up with what we believe. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad for decisions you make, especially with much thought and heart.
Do what works for you.
After all, there is no Perfect Parent. Just the Better Parent to whom we are now, and the only one we should strive to be.
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Tell me in the comments: What is one parenting advice you heard and tried but found didn’t work for you?
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