One of the biggest challenges for any mom or dad is a baby not napping. Learn what to do when the baby won’t nap and how to get him to finally sleep.
It’s the frustration we all dread: the skipped nap.
It didn’t matter how tired I knew my baby was—he’d still refuse to nap. It also didn’t help when one missed nap would reshuffle my entire day and even ruin plans. Sometimes, naps had the power to make or break my day.
I remember thinking, He’s been awake since 6am! I couldn’t stand the thought of him being awake for hours because he’d skipped a nap.
What to do with a baby not napping
The problem was, I felt stuck doing the same techniques, then would get frustrated when they wouldn’t work. I took “failed” naps personally and lost my temper. I was not a happy mama.
But then I started implementing a few techniques that helped my baby take, not skip, his naps. These techniques allowed me to help him actually fall asleep, and I found myself being more patient. By applying these simple changes, I was able to turn naps from nightmare to doable.
Let’s take a look at how you can do the same:
1. Give your baby an opportunity to fall asleep on his own
Has your baby gotten used to falling asleep in your arms, or from feeding? You may be turning to sleeping aids as a first resort instead of as secondary means.
Here’s what you can do: each time your baby needs to nap, try putting him down drowsy but awake. He’ll likely be sleepy enough to fall asleep on his own, but not so knocked out that he has no idea how he even got to the crib in the first place.
Why is this important? Sometimes babies fuss at naps because they struggle with putting themselves to sleep. By giving your baby many opportunities to fall asleep on his own, you can help him self-soothe when he’s about to nap.
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2. Use sleep aids and baby gear
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This might seem like the complete opposite of the first point, but hear me out. While you should give your baby the chance to fall asleep on his own, it’s also okay to resort to sleep aids and baby gear that will help him sleep.
Assuming your baby is still a few months young, it might be unfair to expect him to fall asleep on his own when he still needs your help. So think of it this way: give him a chance to sleep on his own, but if that doesn’t work, use sleep aids and baby gear.
A few of my tried-and-true techniques include:
Don’t fall for the same trap I did and repeat the same technique over and over. If the pacifier isn’t working, switch him into a swing.
3. Watch your baby’s awake time
I didn’t know any better. I thought that babies would simply fall asleep when they felt tired. That they’d just know it was time to nap, and fall asleep wherever they happened to be.
Turns out, that wasn’t always the case. In fact, I ended up taking my baby out and about, not sticking to any schedule. Looking back, I even kept him up for hours at a time, meanwhile wondering why he was acting fussy and not nap when I figured it was time to.
You see, babies have a short window of awake time between sleep times. Any longer and they have a difficult time taking their next nap. They’re overstimulated and almost too tired to fall asleep.
Fussiness is often a sign that your baby is already overtired. And when sleepy cues aren’t easy to detect (especially for first-time moms), you’re better off watching the clock to make sure he hasn’t been awake too long.
4. Use routines to keep your schedule predictable
Your baby may not be able to tell time, but he understands when a routine is in place. He grows used to waking up and feeding, followed by play time, a diaper change and finally, another nap.
Doing the same tasks in the same order gives your baby the reassuring feeling that things are running how they should be. This means less anxiety and fussing, and more focus on playing and learning.
Not only that, but he’s also less likely to resist a nap (and more likely to self-soothe) when he knows when they happen. Far from being boring, routines give you and your baby the structure you need to run on autopilot.
5. Get out of the house
Do you ever feel caged in when your baby won’t nap? Talk about the rest of the day ruined—it’s easy to feel stuck at home with nothing to do but put the baby to sleep.
Except all that does is make you feel miserable, which only rubs off on your baby. Imagine trying to fall asleep when your mom is frowning and upset about why you haven’t napped yet!
Instead, get out of the house for a change of scenery. You’re less likely to feel down when you can focus on other things besides the failed nap attempts.
The best part? The stroller walk, baby carrier, or even car drive just might be the thing your baby needs to fall asleep!
6. Drop the nap your baby has been skipping
Do you notice your baby has been skipping the same nap time? He might be ready to drop that nap completely. This means you could possibly lengthen his remaining naps as well as his awake time between them.
How do you know if your baby is ready to drop a nap? Follow his cues and whether they point to his readiness to transition to fewer naps. You might feel he’s ready when he:
- Doesn’t nap well for one nap, especially for five consecutive days
- Can remain happy and alert even after having skipped that nap
- Takes a long time to fall asleep for his morning nap
- Takes a short morning or afternoon nap
When should you try another nap again?
Let’s say your baby was supposed to nap from 9-10:30am, but isn’t falling asleep. When should you call it quits? And if so, when do you put him down again for another nap?
Keep trying to put your baby to nap for however long your designated nap time was supposed to be. If nap was supposed to be 9-10:30am, then give it a shot up until 10:30am.
What happens if he skipped the nap completely—when do you try again? If your baby is six months old or younger, keep him up for one extra hour after the end of his designated nap time and try again. This means you’d put him down for another nap attempt at 11:30am.
If your baby is older than six months, then keep him awake until his next scheduled nap time. If the next nap time is supposed to be at 12:30pm, then put him down at that time.
It’s easy to feel frustrated when your baby skips a nap. The day feels like it’s humming along as it should when you know he’s well-rested. You feel accomplished, like you’ve done your job well.
But on the days when your baby skips those naps? Well… it’s definitely worth trying new techniques to help turn things around.
Give your baby a chance to fall asleep on his own before resorting to sleep aids and baby gear. Keep a consistent routine so he knows what to expect, being mindful of how long he’s been awake.
Break out of your rut and leave the house if need be—you just might find the change of scenery is what you and your baby needed. And finally, try again at a later time depending on your baby’s age.
It’s never easy when your schedule is off, or if you’re dealing with a fussy baby. But when you take a step back and think about it, naps are a small part of your day. Try not to let skipped naps affect the rest of it—even if you realize your baby has been awake since 6am.
Get more tips:
- How to Get Your Baby to Take Longer Naps
- 13 Ways to Cope with Newborn Sleep Deprivation
- How to Stay Calm when Your Baby Won’t Nap
- How to Get Used to Life with a Baby
- “At What Age…?” Baby Development Milestones You Don’t Always Hear About
Tell me in the comments: What are your biggest struggle with your baby not napping?
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