Getting a haircut at a salon can be overwhelming for kids. Learn how to make your child’s first haircut at a salon a fun experience.
There was no denying it: My son needed a haircut. I’d been saving a ton of money by avoiding the salon, but my home cuts just aren’t, well… cutting it anymore. It was time for his first haircut at a salon.
I avoided formal haircuts for over two years, thanks to the texture of his wavy hair that hid even the most lopsided, uneven haircuts I gave at home. But when a heat rash showed up on the back of his neck, I knew there was no way I’d be able to snip off enough and have his hair look decent.
Of course, a haircut at a salon is a new experience, one that involves a stranger getting really close to his personal space.
8 tips for your child’s first haircut at a salon
Once you decide that a salon haircut is the way to go, the next step is to choose between a regular salon or one that caters to children.
With a regular salon, you’re more familiar with the place and even a few of the stylists. It’s usually less expensive than one for children, and you can even get a haircut yourself or sit in the seats.
With a children’s salon, the entire place is catered to children, from little prizes they win to fun movies they watch. Stylists are also used to squirmy and crying children.
Whether you choose a children’s or regular salon, coming prepared will make the experience more pleasant.
After all, this is the stage when toddlers are protective of their personal space and wary of people they’re unfamiliar with. Plus, they’re asked to do the near-impossible: sit still while a pair of scissors or clippers is within inches of their faces.
Still, taking your child to his first salon haircut is absolutely possible. Take a look at the tips that will make it much easier:
1. Describe what your child can expect
Talk about what your child will see when he walks in, and what people do at a salon. Explain how he’ll sit in a chair and wear a “cape” during the haircut. Describe how the stylist will spray water on his head to make it easier to cut, and that she’ll use scissors to cut his hair so won’t feel so heavy anymore.
You might even hop online and find pictures of the salon you plan to visit. Knowing what to expect will help ease his anxieties and reassure him once he arrives.
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2. Pick a good time to go
You might be tempted to take your child when it’s conducive to your schedule, or even right when the salon opens to beat the crowd. But a successful experience is more likely if you go at his optimal time.
Usually this means he’s well-rested, so go after he’s had a good sleep or nap, not when he’s about to have one. You should also go after having a snack or a meal so he has one less thing to fuss about. You can even offer two snacks: one before the haircut, and one right after.
If you can, schedule an appointment so you don’t have to battle the crowds or wait too long. And if the salon doesn’t take appointments, another alternative is to go during a weekday, when it’s less busy.
3. Pick a salon with plenty of entertainment
One of the benefits of a children’s salon are the many forms of entertainment it offers. Kids can read books while they wait or watch a cartoon while they get their haircuts. Many also offer prizes at the end of their cut.
Even regular salons can offer entertainment for children to focus on as well. I’ve taken my eldest to a salon with tons of vintage posters and cool-looking swivel chairs that kept him curious and occupied.
And if your child is especially fussy and won’t sit still, now would be a good time to show him a cartoon on your phone. Hold the phone in front of him while the stylist snips his hair. This is especially useful if the salon doesn’t have their own television screens.
4. Ask for someone with experience cutting children’s hair
Not all stylists are comfortable cutting kids’ hair, with all the squirming and not following directions. (“Look down. No, look down, not at the mirror.”)
If you’re going to a regular salon, book an appointment with someone experienced with cutting children’s hair. They’ll be more patient and will know exactly what to say to your child to calm him down or get him excited about his haircut.
5. Have your child sit on your lap
Worried that your child won’t even want to sit in the chair, much less allow his hair to get cut? Try sitting him on your lap.
One benefit of a regular salon is that their seats can accommodate adults. If your child is too scared to even sit in the chair, you could hold him in your lap. Sitting with you—as opposed to sitting alone—can be just what he needs to feel comfortable with his haircut.
6. Get a haircut, too
What better way to understand how salons work than to see your own parents getting their hair cut too? One parent can have their hair cut while the other tends to your child. That way, he can see that everyone gets haircuts, and that it’s a normal part of family life.
During one of our salon visits, my husband got a haircut at the same time as our son. And even now at my salon, I’ll still see parents doing the same. Mom will get a haircut while her daughter is sitting next to her getting one, too.
7. Go for a positive experience over a neat haircut
Let’s say your child is reaching his patience threshold with his haircut and is ready to cry. Even with choppy and uneven hair, consider finishing the haircut now before he gets too upset.
Don’t worry about perfecting their lines or making sure the texture of their hair light. Yes, if he’s willing, the stylist can fine-tune his haircut. But if he’s just about had it, be okay with “good enough” hair.
For one of my twins’ haircuts, the stylist asked if I’d like to clean up the cut. The problem? My son was terrified of the buzz and the sensation of the clippers. Could his hair have been more polished? Yes. But I wanted to focus on a positive experience, even if it means coming home with not-so-perfect hair.
8. Praise your child
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Now it’s time to party! After your child’s haircut, praise him for the effort he put in and the successful turnout. You might have to redefine “success” and find pockets of accomplishments he showed.
For instance, did he cry the whole time? Thank him for sitting in the seat and getting through the experience. Is his hair a little lopsided because he kept turning his head? Praise him for his willingness to try something new.
And of course, if he took to his first haircut like a pro, then acknowledge his awesome ‘do and what a “big kid” he is.
Going through a new experience, especially one that can feel invasive, can be terrifying for many kids. Regardless of the outcome, acknowledge his effort and doing his best.
Your child’s first haircut is a new experience for the both of you. Describe what he might see and expect during the haircut. Pick a good time to go, usually after he’s well-fed and rested. Find a salon with plenty of entertainment. If you’re going to a regular salon, ask for a stylist experienced with cutting kids’ hair.
Should he still feel afraid, have him sit on your lap, or get a haircut alongside him. Prioritize a positive experience over a perfect haircut. And lastly, find things to praise him about, from sitting in the seat to at least giving it a shot.
You may not be able to avoid another haircut for years like you’ve done in the past. But now you know how to make his first haircut a smooth and seamless one.
p.s. Check out Lion Needs a Haircut by Hyewon Yum, a fun and relatable children’s book to help him feel better about haircuts:
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