How to Get Your Baby to Sleep Through the Night

Are you still rocking your little one to sleep and waking up frequently? Here’s how to get your baby to sleep through the night.

How to Get Your Baby to Sleep Through the NightExhausted doesn’t even fully describe those nights.

With the baby waking up crying hysterically, I looked forward to the day the sleep deprivation would finally end. He needed to nurse to fall asleep and didn’t know how to self soothe just yet.

I had heard that, past the newborn stage, infants can start to sleep through the night—a solid 10-12 hours straight. They’d be able to take in their calories during the day rather than waking up multiple times to feed. And that eventually, they’d be capable of soothing themselves to sleep without relying on us to do so.

As much as I had heard it happening, I didn’t believe it at first. How could my baby, the one who needed to be rocked and swaddled, put himself to sleep, and through the night too?

Thankfully, he did. But first, let’s talk about when babies can sleep through the night.

When will your baby sleep through the night?

I had read that babies around four months of age can sleep through the night. They’re able to put themselves to sleep without relying on sleep aids like rocking or nursing. They can also take their calories during the day and reserve the nights for sleep.

But the best way to find out if your baby is ready to sleep through the night? Check with her pediatrician. Each baby is different, from when they were born, to any complications they may have, to any issues with weight gain that need to be addressed.

In fact, some books I had read said babies don’t sleep through the night until six months old, while others said they were ready at 12 weeks. The range varies—a lot.

That’s why it’s best to check with your baby’s pediatrician. She can recommend whether she’s able to sleep several hours at night on her own, depending on her unique needs.

How many hours is “sleeping through the night”?

Ask several moms what they consider sleeping through the night and you’ll get various definitions. For some, getting longer stretches of five to six hours of sleep counts as sleeping through the night. For others, longer periods like eight hours count, since it at least gives parents the sleep they need.

I consider sleeping through the night as 10-12 hours of sleep. Children typically need that much sleep at night—my kids age eight and over still sleep for 11 hours.

And while kids will periodically wake up throughout the night (like you and I do), they’ll also know how to put themselves back to sleep (again, like you and I do).

How to get your baby to sleep through the night

Once you get the a-okay from your pediatrician that your baby can sleep through the night without a feeding, it’s time to take action. Here are a few steps on how to get your baby to sleep through the night:

1. Change your mindset

The best place to start is with your mindset. Up to this point, you may have been rocking or feeding your baby to sleep, since those seem to be the only techniques that can do the trick. Or maybe you wake up multiple times a night to insert a lost pacifier that came loose from her mouth.

Trouble is, your baby’s sleep habits have enabled her to rely on external aids to fall asleep instead of finding her own soothing methods.

Let’s say you’ve always rocked her to sleep, as I did my own baby. It’s difficult to expect her to fall asleep on her own if she hasn’t had any opportunities to even try. She’s only doing what you’d been instilling from the get go.

Think of helping her sleep through the night as giving her the chance to sleep on her own, unaided.

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2. Ditch the external aids

The rocking, nursing, swaddles, and multiple pacifier wake ups—all these tactics are unsustainable in the long run.

They’ve worked for a while because that’s all your baby has gotten used to. But you might have noticed that even the vigorous rocking and other sleep aids aren’t working anymore. Or you’re simply too sleep deprived (because she wakes up every hour) to even function the next day.

These sleep aids worked for the first few months and were even necessary, especially for newborn babies. But now, it’s time to ditch them.

Imagine your perfect sleep situation and write it down. For me, I wanted to be able to lay my baby down awake, without a swaddle, and in the baby’s crib. Make your perfect sleep situation your goal, whether that means ditching the pacifier or not having to rock her to sleep.

As hard as it is in the first few days, it’s critical to remove the external aids you don’t want her to use any longer. These are the crutches that prevent her from learning how to sleep on her own.

That said, keep good sleep habits that don’t require you to wake up multiple times a night, like white noise or darkening curtains. These don’t need your involvement as much as rocking or inserting a pacifier do. And of course, stick to a consistent bedtime to help both you and your baby.

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3. Do strategic check ins

An easy way to allow your baby to learn to fall asleep is to decide whether to check in to begin with.

Many babies talk or whimper, even in their sleep, but after a few seconds, they settle themselves back to sleep. But if you go in during one of these whimpers, you’re likely waking her up all the way than if you had stayed put and allowed her to settle down and go back to sleep.

If she does need your attention, keep your check in short—30 seconds at most—and maintain a subdued manner. Try not to pick her up or even pat her—that only upsets her even more. She’s thinking, Why are you just patting me? Rock or nurse me to sleep like you usually do already!

The purpose of the check in isn’t necessarily to soothe her to sleep or offer lots of cuddles, either. You might notice, in fact, that she gets more upset when you check in.

But check in so she knows you’re still there and for you to attend to any issues that may come up (if she has poop or is in an awkward position, for example).

When should you check in? Do them in 5, 10, and 15-minute increments.

If she cries after you lay her down, set the timer for 5 minutes. If she’s still crying by then, check in and reset your timer for 10 minutes. Do the same at 10 minutes and reset your timer for 15 minutes. And from there, keep checking in 15 minute increments as needed.

With consistency, she’ll learn to fall asleep on her own.

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4. Wean your baby from nighttime feedings

Ask your child’s pediatrician if your baby is able to sleep through the night without feeding. If so, consider weaning him from them.

You and I take in our calories during the day, and we don’t eat at all while we sleep. At some point, so can your baby. It’s hard to consume so much during the day when you’re also eating at night. Help him drop the nighttime feedings to encourage him to take in his calories during the day.

Here’s a quick summary of how to do that:

  1. Record when he typically wakes up for the night. For instance, he might wake at 11pm and 3am.
  2. Set your alarm 30 minutes before the wake-up times. Don’t wait for him to wake up to cry for milk. This helps break the association between crying and getting milk.
  3. Wake him to feed. At those designated times, make sure he’s fed the same amount (if formula) or time (if breastfeeding). Give him milk at these set times, even if it means waking him up to do so.
  4. Give extra milk the next day. Increase the amount of milk he gets by the same amount you had reduced. If he had two bottles reduced by half an ounce each, add half an ounce to two of his bottles the next day.
  5. Reduce the amount the next night. Wake him up at the same times, but decrease the amount of formula or breast milk you offer by half an ounce. If he typically drinks 5 ounces each feeding, offer 4.5 ounces instead.
  6. Continue to repeat every night, reducing the milk by half an ounce each night until it’s so little you don’t need to bother waking him up.

Ideally, he’ll begin to eat less at night and more during the day. This process helped wean our son off night feedings. He adjusted to taking all his meals during the day instead of waking up at night to do so.

Over time, your baby will eventually go through the night without waking up to feed. He’ll consume all his calories during his waking hours in the day.

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The moment my babies could sleep through the night were turning points in parenthood for me. Rather than spending an hour nursing and rocking them to sleep, I’d nurse and lay them awake in the crib or bassinet, without swaddles or pacifiers. After a few minutes, I’d find them fast asleep.

I could then relax, knowing I wouldn’t have to scoop them up to rock and nurse if they happen to wake up. I had the hours between their bedtime routine and mine to do what I wanted or needed to.

And the nighttime sleep… I could fall sleep by 10pm and wake up at 6am the next day, without having woken up once.

Meanwhile, they would clock in a full 12 hours, going to sleep at 7pm and waking up at 7am. Sure, once in a while they’d fuss or cry, but they’d often settle themselves back to sleep on their own. And even the times I’d comfort them back to sleep were rare, rather than the norm.

The changes really were like night and day.

I know the same can happen for you. Despite what you may feel right now, you’re not stuck with sleep deprivation for the rest of your life. You can help your baby be a good sleeper, starting with changing your mindset about what it means to let her self-soothe.

Then, ditch the sleep aids you’d rather not continue, such as using pacifiers or rocking her to sleep. Do strategic check-ins, including not rushing in for every whimper you hear. And finally, learn how to wean from nighttime feedings so she can eat during the day and sleep at night.

Help her get a good night’s sleep once and for all.

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  1. My 9 month old sleeps with me, something I said I would never do again! But I was breastfeeding and she was up so often that it just became better and easier to put her with me. I now combine feed. At night she would take 2 bottles of 5 ounces but still wants to be nursed.

    I just feel that I’ve messed everything up and don’t know what to do now. She was always crying when she was younger through the day and night. She is a lot better now but I just want her to sleep through the night as I need to return back to work soon.

    1. Nina Garcia says:

      It can definitely be rough when you’ve established habits that were out of desperation and made life easier then, only for it to get worse over time. It does sound like she’s grown used to nursing to sleep after all this time. Rest assured you can definitely break her out of this habit and that it won’t last forever 🙂

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