Chores, housework or running errands with a baby can be a challenge. Learn how to get things done with a baby, even if you’re alone.
I’m going to do it today, I thought. My husband had just gone back to work, and I was alone with the baby.
I could barely find time to load the dishwasher, much less take him out for an errand. Still…
I’m going to drive to the library, I challenged myself. I had books to return, and I figured it’s about time I learned how to run errands with a baby in tow.
So, I drove to the library, parked the car, and lugged the stroller out of the trunk. Then, to my horror, I couldn’t figure out how to unfold the darn thing. I couldn’t not use the stroller, either—I needed it to carry the baby so I could hold the books, much less open the door.
I felt frantic but also disappointed in myself as I wondered, How do you get anything done with a baby?
How to get things done with a baby
Maybe you can relate.
You can’t get anything done or run the errands you need to. The thought of being home all day with the baby scares you, especially if she doesn’t sleep or cries all day. And with so many things to do and the baby taking up all your time, you feel dejected and disappointed at how little you’ve done all day.
And we’re just talking about daily upkeep like dishes and groceries—forget about deep-cleaning or planning too far ahead.
If you’re overwhelmed and frustrated at the lack of things you’re able to get done with your little one, you’re definitely not alone. Nor are you without help. Stumbling along as a new mom, I learned that you can be productive with a baby, with a few hacks and mindset shifts.
Take a look at these tips that saved me when I found myself alone with a baby (and later, twin babies). I’m certain they can help you, too:
1. Do just one thing while the baby naps
If you’re like me, you try to cram everything during the few precious minutes your baby is asleep. Wash the bottles. Fold a load of laundry. Prep dinner. It seems logical: the more you do now, the more free time you’ll have later to relax.
Except here’s the problem: All that “free” time you’re supposed to enjoy later? You’ll still find a way to fill it with even more tasks.
For instance, my baby would finally take a nap, so I’d figure I should stock up the diaper bin and taking out the trash.
When I had taken care of that, I thought I might as well put the pump parts away so I wouldn’t have to deal with them later. Then once I finished that, I’d dive right into washing dishes so I’d have it taken care of sooner than later.
Well, with all that done, you’d think I was able to relax the evening away, except… the tasks never stopped. I still felt compelled to do things even when I should’ve been resting for having done what I initially intended to.
I wasted the time I could’ve used to relax in that present moment by trying to make up for more free time in the future. Which, of course, never happened.
What’s the alternative? Do just one thing during each nap or free moment. Once you’ve handled that one task, give yourself permission to relax, guilt-free.
However annoying it is to see dishes piled in the sink, deal with it at the next opportunity. Doing it now isn’t going to guarantee you’ll have free time later on.
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2. Bring the baby around the house with you
Even if your baby prefers to be held for just about everything, that doesn’t mean you’re stuck in one place, either.
If you had seen my home, you would’ve found more than one blanket on the floor of each room. You’d have also seen bouncy seats, cribs, portable play yards, and swings, all ready to hold a baby.
Planning ready-to-go places to lay your baby around the house can be a huge lifesaver. No longer are you stuck in one place, or heading to his bedroom to put him down in the crib for a nap.
Maybe you’ll place a baby swing, nursing pillow, or playpen in the living room to place him while you sort socks. Perhaps bring an infant bouncer to the kitchen so you can cook dinner and keep an eye on him. A baby carrier or sling gives you free hands to do many tasks while keeping him “held” nearby.
You’re not stuck in one place just because he insists on being held or needs you nearby. By placing convenient places to set him down, you can still move around the house with him in tow.
And don’t make the mistake I made at the library and wait until it’s too late to give your baby gear a test drive. Give it a go before your scheduled due date, and again during those first few days and weeks. Figuring out how to open a stroller alone isn’t the best feeling in the world.
3. Ask people to come over to help
A quick remedy to getting things done with a baby? Ask people to come help.
This might not be your usual ask, especially if you’re past the newborn baby stage and people have stopped visiting regularly. But parenthood goes beyond those first few weeks and months, and relying on a village never ends.
Don’t be afraid to ask friends and family to come over and help. They can:
- Bring you food so it’s one less meal to cook
- Handle diaper changes while you nap or shower in the bathroom
- Stay home with him while you run an errand
- Play with your older kids while you nurse the baby
Don’t feel like you have to entertain them, either. People won’t expect you to offer food to tidy your home for their arrival. You can even go to your bedroom to take a long, uninterrupted nap. They’re here to help, not to expect you to host and entertain.
4. Lower your standards (at least for now)
Before kids, but my husband and I kept our home pretty clean. Weekly chore lists were the norm, our carpets were pristine, and everything belonged in their places.
But then… the baby arrived. The weekly chore list turned into monthly before eventually becoming “whenever we remembered.” The windows weren’t squeaky clean, the carpets were hardly vacuumed, and the clutter made its way in.
If your house is a mess, it’s okay.
This is the season of messy and chaotic homes, and you’ll find your groove back at some point. Letting your standards go, for now, doesn’t mean you’ll spiral into bad habits forever.
If anything, focus on the daily essentials like wiping kitchen counters and washing laundry. But accept that it is hard and different right now, perhaps more so than you’ve ever experienced. Your home won’t always look this way, and down the line you can always go back to those weekly chore lists.
And don’t beat yourself up when you get nothing done. Remember why you’re doing what you’re doing. If you’re on maternity leave or stayed home to be with him, that is your job. If you do that and nothing else, you have achieved exactly what you are supposed to.
Learn how to avoid baby clutter.
5. Do small things at a time
Long gone are the long stretches of time to focus on one activity uninterrupted. Nowadays, your time is likely broken into small opportunities throughout the day.
The trick is to do little tasks at a time during those pockets of time.
Of course, this isn’t ideal, especially for tasks that need your full concentration. And I get how annoying it gets to try to finish something, only to get interrupted. But during this season in your life, these small pockets can add up.
You might not be able to spend a long time on one task, but you can sneak in five minutes to put laundry away. Your baby might not nap for five hours each time, but the moments he does can be all you need to organize the pantry.
Besides, alone time is good for him too—he can feel overstimulated if you hover over him 24/7. Instead, think of the few minutes you’re not directly engaging with him as his downtime to process all he’s learning and observing.
And finally, set realistic to-do lists. It feels so much better to realize you got your list done, however small it is, than having a long list with only one item crossed off.
6. Challenge yourself
I met a mom at a farmers market who had twin boys the same age as mine. As such, we were also both about to go back to work after maternity leave around the same time.
We were practically carbon copies of each other, except she marveled, “How do you do it? How do you go out with your twins all by yourself?”
You see, while I had brought my twins alone to the market, she had her sister with her.
She admitted that she felt terrified going by herself, unsure of how she’d manage alone. And the funny thing is, I was very much like her in the beginning. I couldn’t imagine how anyone could or would be out and about with their twins alone.
But however scary the thought might have been, I still challenged myself to face those fears. It was hard, especially at first, but then you get that feeling of coming home and realizing, I did it.
I encourage you to do the same. Challenge yourself. You’ll see that you can do things that before had seemed impossible. Yes, it’s tough, and that first day alone with the baby is exhausting. I still remember bouncing from one baby to another when I was alone with the twins.
But, like with any challenge, you think to yourself, Wow, I just did that. And more importantly, I can do that again.
Don’t let your assumptions and fears hold you back from getting things done with the baby. Sure, invite your sister to make it easier, but don’t think you can’t do it alone, either.
So here’s my pep talk: you can get things done with a baby, mama. Focus on just one thing during nap time so you can pace your tasks. Use and practice your baby gear so you can bring him with you on errands. Ask people to help—no shame in that!
Lower your standards—at least for now—so you don’t beat yourself up when you can’t get much done. Do small things at a time, setting realistic to-do lists. Plan your tasks according to your day to make the most of it.
Remember why you’re home with the baby in the first place, and finally, challenge yourself a notch above what you’re used to. You’ll see that you can, in fact, get things done with a baby.
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they SAY the third or fourth are easier. My third is 7 months old now and it did NOT seem easier! He was a bit of a surprise so the older two were just that – older! And still I had to relearn how to live with a newborn plus two that still want and need their mama. Great tips. Especially about lowering your standards. That’s a hard one for me – this was my second c section and it was a more difficult recovery but I still pushed myself too hard at the beginning. I felt it too. It’s important to give yourself grace to figure this new life out.
Cecilia, I hear that a lot from parents of kids with a wide age gap. Heck, I had forgotten how to do newborn stuff and my eldest had only been three 🙂 And I can’t imagine doing stuff around the house while recovering from a c-section! My recovery with the twins was actually easy but with the first pregnancy, it was tough just getting around the house!