11 Ways to Cope with Newborn Sleep Deprivation

Struggling with sleepless nights with your new baby? Discover 11 ways to cope with newborn sleep deprivation when you’re beyond exhausted.

Newborn Sleep DeprivationBefore having kids, my version of “sleep deprivation” and lack of sleep meant all-nighters in college or a restless night of tossing and turning. Still, I always had the option of sleeping in the next day, or at least, taking care of only myself.

New parenthood, meanwhile, felt like a series of all-nighters, night after night, for months. Disrupted sleep became the norm. Sure, I’d sometimes clock in eight hours of sleep a day, but in patches at a time, never in one solid stretch.

It didn’t help that I went through newborn sleep deprivation because of breastfeeding, either. As much as my husband helped with nighttime feeds, nursing throughout the day and night takes a toll on you. Here I was thinking that sleep disruptions during pregnancy were tough.

And forget about sleep deprivation with a newborn and a toddler. When I welcomed the twins a few years after my eldest, dealing with three kids became a huge struggle.

How to cope with newborn sleep deprivation

Even though every parent has been through this, we still wonder… How?

Maybe you’re barely sleeping two hours a night with no chance of napping during the day (what with a toddler to care for as well). Your baby wants to breastfeed constantly and wakes up within five to 10 minutes of being put down in the crib.

And yes, you take turns with your partner—he holds the baby so you can nap, for instance—but what do you do when you’re alone with your baby?

Newborn sleep deprivation can cause emotions like anxiety and take a toll on our mental health, no doubt.

Still, as inevitable as it is for every new parent, you can learn how to deal with it as best you can. I relied on a few tactics that allowed me to get as much sleep as possible, even with a newborn. And when I absolutely couldn’t, I found ways to cope with it as best as possible until this season passed.

So, what are a few sleep deprivation coping strategies you can try?

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1. Conserve your energy

Keep life simple.

Now is not the time to run a zillion errands or resume your exercise regimen. Spend the day watching shows and movies. Read a novel or bond with your baby. Save the strenuous activities for later months.

We forget that we tap into our energy resources throughout the day. Already running low on sleep, conserve your energy for when it matters.

Combat sleep deprivation with its best antidote: rest. I remember trying to be several steps ahead, thinking I was saving time by doing tasks now instead of when I needed to. Sure, it felt less stressful to prepare, but most tasks can be put aside, even if it’s not “efficient.”

Make healthy sleep and rest a priority. Guard your opportunities to rest and take it seriously. Expect life to get chaotic and disgusting (think piled-up dishes and unwashed hair).

But rest assured that this is all temporary. Knowing it won’t last forever means you can forgive yourself for not cleaning or taking a shower.

Find different ways to get the rest you need, as well. For instance, ask friends and family to care for the baby or run errands so you can take a nap. Shop in bulk beforehand so you have all your household supplies stocked.

This way, you can be more efficient with your time and allot most of it to resting.

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2. Create an inviting sleep environment

One of the most painful and annoying things about the middle-of-the-night feedings is falling back asleep.

Think about it: Not only are you jostled awake by your baby’s cries, you now have to go back to sleep yourself. And if he cries as frequently as mine did, you’d have an hour and a half to do that before the same thing happened again.

With such a short window, create an environment conducive to sleep. Make your room pitch black, add white noise to muffle newborn baby sounds (it’s crazy how those sounds wake you up!), and even make your bed. A comfortable, peaceful environment makes falling asleep easier.

And as tempting as it is to rely on coffee 24/7, try to ease up on caffeine, especially around the time you head to bed.

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3. Sleep early

Before I had kids, a typical bedtime was around midnight, or 11pm if I slept “early.” With a newborn, bedtime moved up waaaay earlier. Remember those eight hours I mentioned I used to get in total? That was only possible because I slept early.

Aim for an 8pm bedtime, both for you and the baby. It’ll be dark and late enough at night for him to settle in. It can also be good for you to establish a bedtime routine—yes, even at this stage—to get him used to sleeping at night.

And sleeping early gives you as much time as you can to add up a good amount of sleep. Yes, they’re broken up into chunks, and you’re not getting that long stretch of deep sleep, but chunks of sleep are better than none.

Baby Nighttime Routine

4. Nap when you can

One of the most common pieces of advice for new moms: nap when the baby naps. At first, I thought this was ridiculous. When else would I be able to [do this] or [do that]?! I argued.

Seriously though… nap when the baby naps. Or at least nap for one of his naps so you can still reserve the other times for tasks and to-dos. They’re not full eight hours of sleep, but get as much as you can (better some than none, right?).

Yes, the times when your baby naps can be golden opportunities to do so many things. Clean, prepare, shower, and run errands. You might have a few must-do tasks here and there, some of which you can only do when the baby is sleeping.

But for the most part, your priority (at least one of the top ones) should be to rest and sleep.

Imagine you had just left the hospital for another procedure, not for childbirth. Would you expect yourself to be up and about, cleaning, cooking, and running errands? Probably not. More likely, you’ll confine yourself to bed, resting the hours away.

With a newborn, you won’t get long hours to rest, but you should still consider yourself a patient as well as a mom. Your body is also still healing, so you need to sleep as much as you can. Do the important tasks you can’t neglect, then focus on napping throughout the day.

Practical Advice for New Moms

5. Eat good food and drink plenty of water

It’s amazing how the food and drink we consume can affect our day. Downing a burger and soda can make you feel sluggish and cause more fatigue. Instead, eat healthier options as much as you can: Homemade meals, even those pre-made from frozen dinners. Fruit and vegetable smoothies. Soups and salads.

Not only can healthier food make you feel better, but it can also help you recover as well. Your body will be healing, so it’s even more important to eat the right kinds of food.

If you can’t—if the only thing you can think to eat is delivery pizza—that’s okay, too. We’re talking about the newborn days here, so we can’t always be picky with what we eat. You may not always have the option to eat healthily, but the more nutritious your choices, the better you can feel.

And water! Don’t forget to drink tons of water for all its benefits. You can stay hydrated and avoid headaches, ensuring that your body is performing as best as it can.

6. Take a walk

Feeling cooped up at home can weigh you down. When you’re ready or feel like air and sunshine could do your body good, take a walk. Light exercise can invigorate your body with much-needed endorphins. A slow walk around the block can be all you need to feel refreshed.

Bring the baby in a stroller and start small, or go on your own, even for a few minutes. Later, take him for a stroll with another adult so you can enjoy a conversation.

My walks were my sanity-saving activities, especially when I felt frustrated or helpless. I’d either get a quick break by myself, or I’d push my babies in a stroller. This would usually calm them down or at least give me something to do with them.

7. Prepare for the next step

On one hand, you want to conserve your energy and rest as often as you can. Don’t worry about the toys your toddler scattered on the floor or the mess on the kitchen counter.

But you also want to prepare, especially when doing a task last minute takes more time or causes you stress. For instance, middle-of-the-night wake-ups were not my best times. I was delirious, incoherent, and downright grumpy, and I knew I would already be feeling that way.

So, imagine how much more helpful it was to have everything I needed to be organized and within reach. This meant keeping my nursing pillow, feeding tracker, and infant gas drops in the same place.

I stocked the changing table with diapers and wipes so I wasn’t fumbling around in the dark. I also had my water bottle by my bedside table so I wouldn’t have to go to the kitchen when I was thirsty. These are the things I prepared before going to bed, knowing I’d be in a worse mood without them.

For you, maybe it’s washing your pump parts ahead of time so you always have a clean set ready to go. Or packing your diaper bag the night before going to the doctor’s office. Little things you can do that, if you were to postpone them, would stress you out even more.

You don’t want to get too ahead of yourself though and prepare so much that you don’t allow yourself to rest. Do enough to get through the next scenario, and give yourself the rest of the time to sleep and relax.

8. Ask for help

Many of us have friends and family ready to watch the baby, especially during those first few weeks. My biggest advice: Don’t turn down help! I know many parents prefer to spend the initial days as a family unit, away from others and building their bond.

But with the challenge of caring for a baby, I encourage you to accept and ask for any help you can get. Even if you want to be alone as a family, have others on standby in case you reach a breaking point and realize you can use some help.

And remember that help comes in many ways:

  • Visitors can hold and watch the baby so you can nap, take a shower, or even get out of the house for a few minutes.
  • Accept any gifts like food or baby supplies.
  • Visitors can help with chores like cleaning your home, cooking, or even running quick errands so you can sleep.
  • Friends and family can spend the night (or several nights) at your home. They can have night duties such as holding a fussy baby or changing diapers.

And consider hiring help as well.

Night nurses can help during the challenging hours of the night. A babysitter to play with your older kids or help during the frenzy of the early evenings. A cleaning crew so you don’t have to worry about your home. If it’s within your budget, consider hiring if you don’t have family and friends nearby.

I was lucky because our families live nearby, so we had a supply of food, help, and company during this crazy time. My mom also slept over a few weeks, especially in the early days, and again when my husband returned to work.

These are the sanity-saving “it takes a village” tactics that make all the difference.

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9. Treat yourself to a hotel night

One of the best decisions my husband and I made was to book a night at a nearby hotel. We left all three kids in the hands of willing sitters. Baby duties, baby crying and all that baby stuff didn’t interrupt our sleep for one full night.

I was still nursing and had to set my alarm to pump (so no straight eight hours for me). But I allowed myself to skip a pump without becoming too engorged or depleting my supply.

If you’re pumping, bring breast milk storage bags like these (and make sure the hotel room has a refrigerator to store them in). Then enjoy a night of blissful sleep!

10. Laugh about it

There might be a time (or two) when you’re so sleep-deprived you’re almost looney about it. Instead of letting your problems weigh you down, laugh instead. It’s more refreshing to laugh about yet another skipped nap than to grumble under your breath. Laughing keeps things in perspective.

Yes, it sucks to rock your baby for 45 minutes only for him to wake up the minute you put him down. But at the same time… it’s just a nap. And the more we can laugh about the absurdities of life with a baby, the better we can cope.

Another idea is to watch comedies. I’m talking about movies, television shows, and standup skits. Anything to watch or keep you entertained and remind you of life beyond caring for a baby, a life you’ll likely go back to down the line.

As you can see, you can find ways to combat sleep deprivation. You won’t get rid of it, but you can use smart strategies to cope.

11. Understand that sleep deprivation ends

Don’t think that you’ll be stuck in perpetual sleep deprivation—you won’t. When you’re in the thick of it, remember: this too shall pass.

I was the last person to ever believe this, both with my eldest as a first-time mom and again as a mom of twins. I couldn’t fathom how this could improve at all, or imagine my life going back to normal.

The good news is, it does. It’ll likely take time, but with the right resources and frame of mind, you can survive this newborn sleep deprivation.

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Rest assured friend, you won’t have poor sleep forever. I know it’s hard to see it, especially if you’re trying to survive the challenges of the newborn stage. Still, that doesn’t mean you can’t do anything to combat the exhaustion and frustration of newborn sleep deprivation.

Start by conserving your energy as much as you can. Create a conducive sleep environment for both you and your baby, and sleep early to add up the hours of sleep. Nap when you can throughout the day, and treat yourself to a full night of sleep, even if it means checking into a hotel.

Eat good, healthy food and plenty of water, and take a walk to clear your mind and get your body moving. Prepare for just the next step forward, and if things don’t work out, find the humor in the madness.

Enlist the help of others to help even in small ways, and lastly, remember that this is a temporary season in your life that will pass soon enough.

You can get through this, mama! Even if past all-nighters can’t compare to this newborn sleep deprivation.

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  1. My question has to do with putting my 6 week old in his crib sleepy but awake. Could you describe this process in more detail? For example, when I have tried this, he immediately wakes up and cries with loud, inconsolable sobs, until he is picked up again. How do you proceed from that to put him down sleepy but still awake? It just feels impossible to me and I worry that he will miss his naps and become overtired (which has happened before). People tell me that this will go away when he is a little older (maybe after 6 months), but I worry that this might not be the case.

    So, what do I do when he wakes up immediately, crying inconsolably? How long do I let him cry? How many times do I repeat the process without making him overtired?

    Any additional help would be appreciated.

    1. Nina Garcia says:

      Hi Natalia! As I’m sure you know, there’s no one “right way” to handle newborn sleep. One approach is to give him an opportunity to fall asleep on his own, but if he wakes up, to revert to whatever means helps him sleep, whether it’s with a baby wrap, a swing, swaddling, etc.

      Another approach is to pick him up after he cries, calm him down, then put him down when he’s getting drowsy. Some parents repeat this over and over and I’ve heard that the time that their babies remain asleep stretches longer and longer.

      I agree that down the line, you can sleep train (which is what I did), and it makes a world of a difference knowing you can have your nights back. Knowing that this is temporary definitely helped me.