Dealing with meltdowns can be difficult, but it's during these times your angry child NEEDS you. Here are strategies to help you handle it. My kids had been so excited to work on the school garden. You couldn't peel them away from digging and turning the soil. Other than the occasional snack, they wanted to keep shoveling and pulling weeds. And then it happened: One of them didn't want to leave. Whereas the other two were ready to go home, he wanted to stay and dig. So, my husband and I did the typical moves: we showed empathy and tried to make the transition light. We even gave him … [Read more...]
Children’s Books about Anger
Need ways to calm your angry child down? This collection of children's books about anger helps kids manage and understand these big feelings. It's that moment when you realize this is far more than just a tantrum or mere stubbornness. And after three kids, I've seen the face of true anger, especially when it comes out of nowhere. It might've been when I said it was time to leave the school garden, only for them to kick and scream in the van the entire ride home. Or when one of my kids yelled at the top of his lungs, his face in anguish because I told him it was time to take a … [Read more...]
9 Useful Techniques for Dealing with Anxiety in Children
Worried about your anxious child? Learn useful techniques to ease anxiety in children you can apply immediately at home. Anxiety. I tell myself everyone deals with the emotion to varying degrees, including my kids. Handling anxiety in children can be a challenge because they're still learning how to cope with difficult emotions. Anxiety can happen any time, but common culprits include a change of plans. Your child might throw a fit because you have to leave the playground sooner than expected. A new environment and meeting new people can also trigger his anxiety and send him clinging … [Read more...]
Children’s Books about Feelings
Feelings can overwhelm kids, especially difficult ones to process. Read these children's books about feelings to help your child cope. Many of the challenges with our kids stem from their inability to process feelings the way you and I can. The tightening of the chest and the awful, cloudy feeling are difficult to understand. They can't figure out why they feel the way they do now that the new baby is here. They might even believe they're the only ones who feel this way, or that they're somehow "bad" for doing so. And so, they act up or hit instead of communicate because these … [Read more...]
Little Ways You’re Actually Judging Your Child’s Emotions
Do you act different when your child is throwing a fit than when he is happy and excited? Avoid the mistake of judging your child's emotions. Do you love your kids unconditionally? I thought I did. After all, I love mine regardless of the choices they'll make and celebrate who they are, in spite of their differences and similarities with me. And I say this not lightly, but truthfully: I would give my life for them. Isn't that unconditional love? I thought so. But then I realized my kids may not see it that way. And it all started with the movie Frozen... Like any silly parent … [Read more...]
Unique Ways to Meet the Emotional Needs of Your Child
Meeting the emotional needs of a child raises well-rounded, competent, and capable kids. Discover 7 unique ways to nurture your child's emotional needs. Fewer tantrums, more listening, getting along with others... every parent wants nearly the same things from their kids, things we think are rooted in their behavior. Want less tantrums? Put your foot down. And while these tips and tricks are the actions we take to course-correct, they stem from a deeper reason why kids behave that way in the first place. For instance, why do they throw tantrums? More importantly, why is it that showing … [Read more...]
Why You Shouldn’t Tell Your Child to Stop Crying
Hearing kids cry and whine can feel frustrating, but we also shouldn't tell them to stop crying. Take a look at a few compelling reasons why. I'll admit: I've told my kids to stop crying pretty often. They could've been crying for 30 minutes straight before I snapped and said, "Stop crying already!" I've sent them to their rooms, telling them they can come out when they're finished. And I've also held them in my arms after a scraped knee, reassuring them with a mantra of "Don't cry, don't cry..." I'm certain I'm not alone. It's amazing how many times we tell our kids to stop crying … [Read more...]
5 Things You Shouldn’t Say When Your Child Loses
Everyone faces failure, and what we say to our kids is important. Learn what to avoid when your child loses a competition (and what to say instead). Imagine this: Your child is excited to enter a gymnastics competition this weekend. She has her props prepared and her outfit hanging on the door, and her confidence is through the roof. She knows she'll win first place. She's been practicing for weeks (although, admittedly, not as much as she could). The big day arrives, and she performs. But despite her weeks of practice, she didn't win first place. In fact, she failed to win any … [Read more...]