Don't make your life just about your children and being a mom. Learn the biggest reason parents should have a life beyond kids. Moms, it can sometimes feel like we have no life. We hardly have time to shower or cook, much less exercise the way we used to. Tasks clutter our to-do list and the kids clamor for our attention. We can't always follow common advice to take some time for ourselves once in a while. And we know we should have a life beyond kids, but can't seem to figure out how. Instead, we focus so much on the kids, prizing them more than any generation in the past ever had. … [Read more...]
Why Parenting Is Harder than Your Day Job
Does work seem easy compared to raising your child? Discover why being a parent is often harder than your day job across many careers. Mondays couldn't come fast enough. Whereas my pre-baby self clung onto the weekend, this time, I relished the hours I'd be at work and free from childcare responsibilities. I had always believed taking care of kids is not for the faint of heart. I read statistics that claimed a stay-at-home parent's salary—if paid—would be worth at least $100,000. The work put into parenting often far exceeds the work we do at our paid jobs. Sure, sometimes being home … [Read more...]
Why We Need to Stop Telling Boys to “Man Up”
Want to raise strong, confident boys? Stop telling boys to man up. These 5 reasons explain the downsides of telling a boy to be a man and what to do instead. We value a certain kind of boy. The ambitious and popular boy all the girls have a crush on. The class clown who can make anyone laugh, and of course the boy who won't back down from insults or harsh words. Being ambitious, popular, funny or assertive isn't the problem, but hiding other aspects of being a boy in the name of "manning up" is. The documentary The Mask You Live In addresses these issues and how often we're telling … [Read more...]
Are You Teaching These Life Skills Your Child Needs in Adulthood?
Parenting includes teaching life skills your child needs in adulthood. Find activities and ideas to make learning life skills easy and effective at an early age. It's hard to imagine, but our kids will be adults. We assume we have time before they really need to buckle down and learn a few things. We don't think about important life skills they need to learn before becoming adults. Author and former Dean of Freshman at Stanford, Julie Lythcott-Haims, says many young adults don't have the skills they should've learned throughout childhood. Her book, How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of … [Read more...]
These Are the Things Your Kids Will Remember About You
Do you feel pressured to create the "perfect childhood"? Don't add unnecessary stress—these are the things your kids will remember about you. A mere toddler, I remember running to my mom as she came through the front gates. I had been sitting on the steps with my brother and sister when I saw her squat down and stretch out her arms. At about five-years-old, I remember my sister and I vowing to stay up the entire night. To cap it off, we sneaked downstairs to the basement to watch The Flintstones at five in the morning. Feeling proud, we couldn't imagine why our parents were furious when … [Read more...]
Why Boredom is Good for Your Child
Next time you hear "I'm bored!", don't be too quick to entertain your kids—boredom has its benefits. Learn why boredom is good for your child in many ways. We hear it a zillion times: "I'm bored." And when we do, we're compelled to engage with our kids. That's whether we work outside the home (I hardly see them enough!), or stay at home (Isn't this why I left work to begin with?). But guess what: boredom is good for your child. Why kids get bored I get it though, it's hard not feel obligated to entertain our kids and save them from their boredom. This, despite the toys, books and … [Read more...]
How to Build a Close Relationship with Your Child
One of my goals is to remain close to my kids well into their adulthood. Here's how to build a close relationship with your child, starting now. Many years from now, we'll stop doing everything for our kids. They'll learn to follow their own paths and decisions, only turning to us for advice or support. They'll be adults, and the majority of our parenting duties would have finished. In those years, what will your relationship become? And is there a way to create a close relationship with your child now that extends into his adulthood? I'd like to think so. We can't choose our kids, … [Read more...]
Bad Parenting Habits We Need to Break
We all have bad parenting habits we need to break. See if you can relate to these habits that are too easy to fall into—and how to avoid them. "Gotta stop doing that." I've said this so many times to myself. I know what I "should" be doing as a parent but I sometimes keep repeating bad parenting habits I mean to break. You know they're pretty bad not so much because its consequences are dire but because you keep telling yourself over and over not to do them anymore. And while these won't make or break me as a parent, they're still annoyingly persistent, despite my best … [Read more...]